Our Themes for November

It was time for our themes...the restaurant was still buzzing and so we felt it was the right time to discuss this month's theme 'Finding a Happy Place.' I was disappointed that Danielle wasn't here for this bit as I felt certain she would have entertained us with her possibly rude interpretation of the theme. Instead I kicked off with my theme, which was a collection of photographs of my happy place in Finland. My happy place is my husband's family summer house, we go there nearly every year for some well earned rest and relaxation. What I love about it is that there is nothing there but a beautiful lake and forest. The summer house is nestled amongst the trees and the sauna house is just below on the edge of the lake...where you can lay inside and look out of the window to watch the sunset. Sometimes we row the boat around the lake, pick blueberries from the bushes surrounding our house or take long walks through the forest. At night my husband makes up recipes and cooks us an amazing dinner and then we go to the sauna and swim in the lake as the sun sets. When it gets dark we take wine down to the deck and sit by the lake watching the shooting stars. There is no sound, just the sound of the water lapping against the rocks. Everything is so easy, so far away from my worries and problems. When I sit on the edge of the deck, staring out to the sunset with my feet dipping into the warm water and a warm summer breeze caressing my shoulders that's when I know I am in my happy place...there's nothing else like it...I come alive.

Caroline discovered her happy place just recently...it was a dark, foggy day outside and she sat snuggled up in her fleecy pyjamas and beanie hat (which has shares in all female moments!). Caroline loves the Scandinavian style of interior design and showed us some examples she had found in a magazine. The clean, white lines with splashes of red, sheepskin rugs and fairy lights. Her living room is almost there if she could only convince her partner  that the sheepskin rug would be an investment, a classic time piece to complete their Norwegian feel living room. And so Caroline realised that this is her happy place...her cosy living room, lit up with twinkling fairy lights and keeping her cosy and warm in the cold, murky afternoon. She settled in for her girly afternoon complete with customary chocolate and cosy slippers and snuggled down on the settee to watch one of her favourite films...Predator!

Amanda had struggled to find her happy place and so decided to write a list of the places where she felt happy...at her desk being creative, in the kitchen cooking, reading with a nice drink in her hand or having a chat with a friend over a cup of tea. And then she realised that she doesn't really have a happy place...home is a happy place if the circumstances are right, ideally with the right company. And so she took inspiration from the book "The Happiness Project" by Gretchin Rubin and found that she is at her happiest when she is growing and striving after goals. This inspired Amanda to start her own embroidery project. Of course Amanda who always plays down her theme then fetched out something truly amazing, a fantastic embroidery, which although not quite complete was making Amanda set herself a goal. Although often these projects can frustrate her, after speaking to her Mum on the phone who advised her to just do a little bit at a time...she discovered that her happy place is being at home, working on a project (a little at a time) often with somebody there that she can talk to.

Phoebe found that she had more than one happy place. She began by talking about her cat Boris...being at home with her faithful cat who always manages to make her feel happy. She then listed some of the simple things that help her to find her happy place...reading Sainsbury's magazine (especially the Christmas issue); drinking a mug of hot chocolate whilst snuggled up at home; her recent visit to the cinema at midnight to watch Breaking Dawn she found,  was definitely a happy place to be. Making cakes with Catherine; driving in the car listening to Fleetwood Mac; watching trash TV like Strictly Come Dancing and Merlin on a Saturday night; wearing new pyjamas; chatting in the car with her boyfriend Alex and finally being at The Intellectual Dinner Club. All of these things made Phoebe feel content and in her happy place.

Time to say goodbye

A few strange things had happened tonight...the booking itself had been strange as Amanda had mentioned...how did they know the booking was for five? On arrival there was four of us but the man behind the bar said "booking for five?" And at the end of the night...when we were served our desserts we had all been thinking we could really do with some water but none of us had spoken up...suddenly the staff appeared with a jug of water and four glasses. Were the staff at the Woodman also psychic?...We were strangely impressed. It had been a fantastic evening...despite the absence of Danielle. The restaurant had been superb, the food and service had been far beyond our expectations and everyone seemed so much more happier and relaxed at the end of the night. We left our little card on the table, paid our bill and then ran away giggling. We squealed and laughed as once again the little car twisted and turned like a rollercoaster through the winding country roads...our faces hurt from laughing and I was desperately trying to hold onto a wee as we jumped around in the back seat. Despite us all having different happy places...I think at the end of the night we all shared one happy place in common...The Intellectual Dinner Club.

Catherine x

What Makes You Happy? - Part 2 : Finding a 'Happy Place.'

When I first gave the theme out to the girls Danielle laughed predictably. I knew as I wrote it that she would say (with a wink and a nudge) that she knew where her "happy" place was and sure enough she did! But I knew that most of us had all been feeling a bit down lately and not very happy and that's what inspired me to get the girls to seek out the place that makes them happy. There are a few times and places where I have felt truly happy and when I am feeling down I forget about those times and tend to wallow in self-pity and then I start to feel unhappy again. By completing this theme I want to have something that I can look at to be reminded where it was or what it was that made me happy and then hopefully it will make me feel happier again...I hope that makes sense. I'm intrigued to find out at the next dinner what the girls have done for their themes...as always at Christmas time it gets harder to find the time to complete our themes, but we always do. Right now I'm just putting the finishing touches to mine whilst sitting in front of the television watching 'Meet Me in St Louis' and eating my fourth piece of chocolate...okay I'm lying it's my sixth...I'm past caring and it's Christmas! I really like taking a bit of time out from all of the hustle and bustle to put my theme together, a bit of time off from the world. What would I do without the Intellectual Dinner Club?

Catherine xx

Table for Five?

I have just booked the table for our next meal; well kind of booked it as they are not taking reservations for midweek bookings until December, but I was assured that there wouldn’t be a problem with seating us. The lady on the phone then asked if it was a table for five to which I replied, yes - how did she know it was for five? I was too taken aback to ask and have now convinced myself that our reputation precedes us.

Each month we book under a different name and for this month I chose Atticus. Anyone who has read ‘To Kill a Mockingbird’ will understand my choice. Carrying on from last month’s theme I chose this novel from the big read challenge; not quite sure how I’ve managed to miss out on such a great classic. Atticus Finch is a role model for all men and for all fathers and I have fallen head-over-heels for him. I find myself wanting to be a better person for him and the example that he sets. It’s really hard sometimes to see beyond yourself and step into another persons shoes, but Atticus sets a benchmark to live by. What an amazing piece of literature that gives us such wonderful human characters that they can become a part of our lives and enrich our souls.

Amanda xxx

October Meeting - Update

“It’s Hilary Devey”

I can’t believe how quickly this year is going. It doesn’t seem like two minutes since our January meeting and here we are with 47 sleeps till Christmas. Halloween had come and gone and, in just a couple of days it was going to be Bonfire Night. I was shattered. Having had a particularly nasty bout of flu, I was feeling wiped out and knackered and the amount of make-up I was having to apply in the morning in order to not scare small children was going to rival Boots.Stress, illness and just a general feeling of tiredness had also affected the other witches, but we were all looking forward to a great evening and Dani was back with us !!!

After a frantic journey, we made it to the Weavers in Golcar. The Weavers has been a successful restaurant for 40 years and has recently undergone a refurbishment. The conversion is stunning, with a cosy seating area for the bar and an ample, luxury space for diners. Amanda particularly coveted the union jack chairs and I had my eye on the very funky wine coolers!

Even though we arrived late, the staff kindly let us have the early bird. The starters were lovely. We had the Yorkshire Ham Terrine, Salmon Gravadlax and the spring roll (not all at the same time!) The food was beautifully presented and very tasty. Conversation turned to new phones, our childhood cuddly toys (Ken the Dog!!) and the fact that Pringles have a new flavour. The mains arrived promptly after – Fish and Chips, Stilton and Leek Strudel and mushrooms and clams. I had the strudel and it was yummy and very light, I didn’t feel over-faced by it.  Catherine was in danger of not finishing her main as we had a particularly meaty conversation about eyeballs which only ended when we realised Catherine had gone a peculiar shade of green!!! The desserts looked particularly yummy, and we settled on sticky toffee pudding with butterscotch sauce and custard. Thse were delicious. Dani decided on a coffee and it arrived with a homemade truffle. As Danielle doesn’t like chocolate, she tried to divide her truffle into 4 pieces with a spoon for us to share. 

James, our waiter, seeing the fact that a very expensive truffle was threatening  to fly across the restaurant into another diner’s lap, offered to bring us a truffle each. We all thought this was a lovely gesture and agreed that the service for the evening as well as the food had been really great. 

And so to our theme, I had asked the ladies to each read a book from the Big Read list composed by the public in 2005. We all picked very different books and then to compose our own top 10s.  The books we opted to read were Good Omens by Terry Pratchett (Phoebe), Kane and Abel by Jeffrey Archer (Amanda), 1984 by George Orwell (me), Wuthering Heights by Emily Bronte (Catherine) and Perfume by Patrick Suskind(Danielle). Years ago on the Fast Show, there used to be a character who presented a jazz show. He dressed in a black polo neck, corduroy jacket and every now and then would turn to the camera and go “nice”. We all became the female version of this character during our reviews , with heads on one side, thoughtful faces, intellectually placed fingers and saying “Interesting”a lot. But do you know what? It proper was. We had all picked books we would not normally read and for Catherine, had picked a book she had been meaning to read for ages and ended up loving. Our own top 10’s were a real mixed bag and it was brilliant seeing what my fellow witches loved to read. 

We decided to take some pictures of the lot of us. When we handed the camera to James, we did not realise that we were in the presence of a photographic genius! Catherine was sat on a high backed chair with her coat on the back. The angle of the picture taken by her made her look like she had shoulders worthy of an American linebacker! Amanda took one look at the photo and said “It’s Hilary Devey” from Dragon’s Den. Suddenly all the stresses of the past month were forgotten as we all completely lost the plot, laughing so hard, with tears streaming down our faces. I laughed so hard tears, my sides ached the next morning. Priceless!!

And so ended another brilliant evening in lovely company, roll on the next one!!





Can you spot Hilary?





October's Dinner

The theme this month is called 'The Big Read Challenge.' It's a challenge in four parts and this is what we have all had to do:

1. What's your number? Go through the Big Read list and count up how many books you have read.

2. Read one of the books off the list that you haven't already read

3. Review that book and present your review to the group

4. Do your own top 10 books of all time

The Big Read was shown on the BBC in 2003, it's aim was to find Britain's best-loved novel and the British public voted for the books that they loved the most! Click on the link here and have a look for yourself www.bbc.co.uk/arts/bigread/top100.shtml

This month we will be dining out at The Weaver's, which used to be known as The Weaver's Shed. The Intellectual Dinner Club visited The Weaver's Shed back in 2009 when we first began our club and since then it has been sold and re-launched as The Weaver's...we thought it only right that The Intellectual Dinner Club pay them a visit and have a nosy around! We can't wait!

September's dinner

I love autumn. It's my most favourite season of the whole year. I love the nip in the air, the nights drawing in and any excuse to cosy up at home with a good book or some telly goggling. September is still the beginning of autumn right? Or am I much mistaken, the really crazy high pressure that came swooping over the country gave us a serious Indian summer to remember. I had already got my boots and opaques ready for the new season when suddenly I was having to shave my legs so I could wear skirts and shorts again, it was so hot! Not that we're complaining, we all enjoyed a last glorious blaze of sunshine. So the evening of our meal began with us heading out in Catherine's car with the windows open, wearing something summery and listening to some cool Portuguese tunes, it felt a bit like being on holiday. We were optimistic for some enjoyment; despite being a member down again (Dannie's work commitments meant she wouldn't be joining us).

Off we went to the Golden Cock in Thurstonland, a nice friendly pub with a reputation for good food. After soaking up the beautiful country views in the last rays as the sun went down, we went into the pub which was bustling. We were given a choice of where to sit and went for the quieter dining area which has an attractive bar with stained glass decoration. As we ordered and settled down with our drinks the conversation was pleasant and relaxed but to be honest we were all a bit tired. For some of us work had been stressful this month and we all had stuff going on either at work or at home, so the mood wasn't quite so boisterous as usual, we were all just enjoying chatting and forgetting our woes. Whilst we waited for our main courses, the young waiter came and told us that one of the meals would take a little longer, we said that was ok but could they bring us some olives or something to nibble on. We got a basket of bread and vinegar and some amazing olives, all free of charge – fantastic. This kept us going until the meals arrived. Catherine and Amanda had chicken dishes and Caroline went for a lovely pie, all of which was delicious. I ordered sticky ribs, wedges, corn on the cob, coleslaw and salad, wow it was enough for four at least. But i was starving so I dove in and it was great. Of course there was a little room for pudding and I had a mango and passion fruit parfait which was lovely and Caroline and Catherine both went for a blackberry bakewell tart which looked really good. Amanda ordered her usual latte but was disappointed when it arrived. It didn't look like a latte and she told the waitress so. The second attempt looked better, but it still wasn't up to scratch! I think the coffee machine let them down a bit. However there were absolutely no other negative things about our evening at the Golden Cock. The service was fantastic, the atmosphere was buzzing and the food top notch and reasonably priced too. We would recommend it.

So to the theme, I had asked the ladies to relax this month. I had in mind a nice easy theme which everyone would have no trouble getting on with. I thought we could all do with a spot of R and R. We all talked about what helps us to relax: for me it's yoga and meditation and the odd cheeky glass of wine, for Caroline it's clearing her mind with a good run, Catherine enjoyed the delights of a TV program called The Real Housewives of New York and chilling on the sofa and Amanda found peace on an early morning walk through Honley. Though we all had one thing in common...it's not easy to make time to relax. Life seems to take over and we found that relaxing or making time for you is not high on the list of priorities, in fact we often found ourselves doing other things when we were meant to be relaxing! And when you do get time to do something just for you, there’s the tendency to feel a bit guilty. We decided that it is really important to chill out now and then and we must not feel bad about it!

Our conversations for the evening drifted from the joys of wearing giant underwear to suck you in to people with funny laughs (not saying any names!) and my cat Boris' new girlfriend. Enough to say that we had a lovely evening and one of the best ways to relax is to hang out with your mates eating lovely food and having a good laugh. I went home feeling refreshed, particularly full up and relaxed until I realised that I had forgotten my keys and was locked out at 11pm. Anyway, it turns out that stargazing on a balmy night while you wait for someone to turn up with a key is quite relaxing too!    
                                                     
                                                      Phoebe xx

Phoebe xx